Minimalism and Priorities

This is just so paradox that I am writing about this right now.

Currently there are so many opportunities out there which I am SO FRKN GRATEFUL for but it's also needed to focus on your main things.

It's no surprise that we are overwhelmed often with the internet and Person A, B or C wants us to buy their product or service.

Like those parasites are everywhere haha. Sometimes ppl really want to help us and not only sell something but often they just want their provision lol.

For good hearted ppl it's so important to have boundaries and to know where the line is. WE gotta take care of ourselves and our own needs. Emotionally and Physically. If someone hates you because you are working out and they are just too frkn lazy for that. F them. You don't need talk to them like "aw let me help you".. Focus on you.

Ppl are inspired by example if you suffer with them no one is helped and you make it worse. REMEMBER!

When you do something productive or you are treating yourself with love give yourself some permission.

We need to give ourselves compliments and enough appreciation for what we are doing. We can't wait for others to do that.

That's why I am afraid of compliments sometimes bcs I would never want to become dependent from that.

It's normal in todays society that we don't feel appreciated bcs once we start something we find something new which is incredible bcs we have these amazing opportunities nowadays but like.. nothing is sustainable anymore..

Consistency became rare bcs we tend to get distracted so easily. By our phone, other ppl, social media or simply some guru who wants to tell us what's right for us. A REAL GURU- like I am a fan of Tony Robbins- knows that quality comes from "you want" not "I want you to want so I get my provision and I can pay my bills."

These kind of things can also be distractions so be aware of that. If you really want to change something you can still do your research, go to a coaching or self-development program. But forced change is as unproductive as no change. You need to want it at least a little bit so be aware that every "improvement" could be a distraction but also a move forwards as a support of your longterm goals.

So the decision is before the action not wise versa.

I want to say that it's so easy that you are doing perfectly fine and then someone else tells you what to do. It doesn't matter if that's a You-Tuber a "friend" some stranger or someone you just met.

But it's our decision if we let influence ourselves by that or not.

We all have a the birth right to be valued and appreciated as well as loved.

If something isn't for you. Let me get this straight. IT IS NOT FOR YOU..

AND THAT IS FINE!!!

We decide what we want to do with our lives and no one has the right to tell you what is right or wrong for you expect other ppl would be include in a bad way but I guess we can all think logically right...

But when it comes to our dreams the only person that can decide where the path should go is the person reading this right now.

Why did I wrote minimalism in the caption? Simply bcs that's the key to peace and freedom. For real.

Minimalism is a way of Lifestyle. You focus on what's important. It's about the FOCUS. No matter which life area that would be. This could be: sorting out stuff you don't even use, rethinking your lifestyle like what does really benefit you longterm, changing old behaviors that doesn't serve you or believe systems, saying goodbye to ppl that don't give you orgasm haha, joy, emotional support or any kind of happiness.. That kind of stuff.

Minimalism can mean focusing one 3 things. 3 things. That's it.

I know we all have to do lists.

Try: What is doable? Not: "Tomorrow I am working out, I will read, meditate, go for a walk, do insta content, write a Blog, go to the gym, meet a friend for a coffee, make pictures, go shopping, study, educate myself, making research about this or that, visit another friend in the evening, cook a new meal, ah and groceries...

Noooo... Pls. We are young we don't want to have a bad skin in 6 years HAHA.

Chill tf out.

One task a day.

Sure working out, meditation all this stuff should be included in a routine but that's like 3-4 hours a day. 10 h left k bcs we sleep. There's work maybe. Maybe you have a day off. Great. 10 h . But Focus on one task. You will be impressed how focus influences the quality of the result of a task.

We all have a certain amount of energy each day. We all have the same amount of hours. Time is just an illusions humans made up bcs our intuition can't be used in that way to live in that kind of society we are right now.

So we got time and emotional energy.

Your energy is sacred.

If you do task 1 and Person B is impressed and wants to spend time with you. Great. Appreciate that as a compliment. Say thank you. And focus on your task again.

I said in one podcast that you are not a candy machine and everyone can just take whatever they want for free.

You set your prize. And you need to give up some emotional energy as well. So when it's not a match like for what would you even waste your energy and time.

Make sure you get something back from what you give.

Otherwise you don't feel appreciated and your self-worth goes to the deepest darkest spots.

If you don't set your standards, worth and who is worth your time.. Other ppl will do that and then you are just a slave by your external circumstances and ppl as well as energy that is surrounding you.

You don't live from the inside out anymore but from the outside in.

And that my friends is irresponsible and immature. You are not even trying to create a good vibe by yourself bcs you are either way dependent from the external world.

No one should live that way and you don't deserve that neither.

Everyone has their interest, priorities and talents. If you dot play piano but you can play e-guitar like a professional.. Pls don't hang out with all the pianist telling you what you did wrong.

Go out there and search for your e-guitare playing peer group!! I swear to god there's always a peer group and someone for everyone. We are all one even if we are so different from each other.

So back to Minimalism. This can be such a feeling of freedom, trust and focus. Bcs you know all the distractions and things that doesn't benefit you are no longer standing in the way and your actions are in alignment with your actual interests and talents <3

Yes first it's a goodbye and after that it's: Damn thank god I said goodbye bcs it actually didn't matter.

And your focus is back.

Several Websites and You-Tube videos describe Minimalism which I think is pretty cool especially in our consuming society today where everyone is just following trends and wasting so much money on materialistic things.

So you can watch sum videos if you are interested as well :)

I think minimalism does benefit everyone. That's why I want to learn it.

I realized that I want to focus on my career. I want to focus on max 3 things. That's it. And those 3 things should bring me further :)

Those 3 things are picked carefully and with intention.

The feeling of driving somewhere by intention bcs you have an appointment that actually brings your further!! Like for REAL!!! Wow. I didn't had that in so long bcs I was so overwhelmed by all this possibilities out there and I just didn't wanted to pick bcs I could miss all the 912863918 other opportunities.

So picking what feels right is my new motto and everything that brings me to survival mood... Just let it be. It's fine. You are not for everyone and not everyone is for you. You don't need to do everything in oder to pls all kind of people. You can just focus on what feels right for you and makes you happy bcs that's what life is about like nothing else in my oppinion. Also that would be the answer of almost every grandma when she is looking back. It's abt the moments.

You can focus on what you love and find your peer group while doing that. Close and honest as well as loyal relationships are rare bcs once you opened up someone goes traveling, has a new job opportunity, found someone else on insta bcs there're only 7 Billion ppl out there lol.

It feels like we aren't able to have real connections anymore bcs everything is just so temporary which is okay but isn't that sad.

Like idk but I always found f boys very sad bcs they are literally just f ing around bcs they are too afraid to have an honest realtionship. Like how sad is that. I was never like: "damn this is so cool" no HAHA .It´s sad. It's fun for a while but we are all humans and relationships is part of our basic needs it's just not an option it's what we all NEED since evolution and you can't deny that.

So Minimalism is also about a smaller circle. For me that's hard bcs I want to connect with EVERYONE. I am that kind of person almost everyone will get along with bcs the fact that there could be an uncomfortable moment where you don't get along would be too uncomfortable for me HAHA.

When it comes to ppl pleasing it's also a very good skill and mindset to focus on what's good for you in a minimalistic way.

So focusing on yourself and what feels good is the first step. Everything else comes after prioritizing what you want in life.

I did that with 3 parts bcs 3 is the magical number hehe. 1. Life 2. Career 3. Personal Goals.

1. Life: This could be everything like your health, money, relationships etc.. like what would be your highest prioritization.

2. Career: Do you want to study, be an entrepreneur, what kind of work do you like overall separated from the topic money ...

3. Personal Goals: Do you want to be more confident, motivated or spontaneous. Who are you right now with all your wonderful traits and who do you want to shape ...

These questions and researching how to prioritize in a productive way has helped me a lot to get more clarity in my life as well.

Also the more clarity I got the less insecure I got. I am more confident bcs I know it's okay with me so idc about yours.

That's the mindset we want to create. Appreciating and acknowledging other livings but focusing on our own..

Let me know what you think about this BLOG and if you made any experience with Minimalism...!

Love,

Shana <3