Choosing the right ppl for you

Ohh I could write a book abt that.. I'm the queen of picking accidentally wrong ppl out of loneliness.

But not only for our self-worth also for to others it's very important to have healthy relationships.

Being in peace with your self and having enough self-worth to say I deserve ppl that support me in every life situation is sth not everyone is capable to do.

Many of us think they don't deserve better so they don't accept what they could get. We need to realize that we deserve the world.

What I've learned:

If you become aware of how worthy you are you start to cut out relationships you don't need.

The older I get the more I realize the importance of close deep relationships instead of just being famous.

It's so much energy that goes away if you're texting with everyone, if you spend your time with anyone and if you give your energy to those who doesn't appreciate your time.

Having a small but qualitative circle can help a lot.

(but this takes time and you need to explore a lot..)

If you spend your time rather alone than with ppl who aren't meant for you, you've reached a higher level of self-consciousness.

Sure it first gets lonely but when you overcome your wounds and start to heal by your own instead of just distracting you attract the nicest healthiest shit you can have never imagined before.

I would not even spend a minute with those who disappointed with me in the past. Who didn't respect me at all or tried to make me small instead of supporting me and lifting me up.

So why did I had this relationships? 1. I wasn't aware of how amazingly worthy I am 2. I didn't realized it was toxic I hadn't the needed understanding and awareness and 3. Bcs I felt lonely but this made it even worse bcs I was just distracting.

When we feel lonely it's not like we don't have the opportunity to connect.

I have enough contacts that come into my mind but I don't feel like it's the right connection or that they would understand me. You feel disconnected.

This is why communication is key and also being constantly open even if you think this person is not for you. Ppl can surprise you.

I would hav never thought that I come this far to my personal goals by spending time with myself and I actually really enjoy my own company. Introverts can relate to that.

Humans need connection so don't forget to communicate and to socialize bcs it's also important for everyones health.

But being constantly around with the wrong ones is just low vibrance energy and makes you depressed.

How do we pick the right ppl?

I guess like many other "problems" we solve that with listening to our hearts.

Energy doesn't lie ppl can say a lot of things.

I've heard so often "I'm here for you" but they didn't really mean it. I can tell by looking in their eyes, watching their behavior when I told them sth or just by simply my gut feeling.

My intuition always told me the right thing in the first place but bcs we judge too fast often I always wanted to give it a chance.

There're some things you can watch ppl doing or how you feel when you're with them in order to find out if they're the right ppl for you.

Pscyh2go has lovely videos on their YT channel for examples but there're several books and articles abt that too it's a very huge topic.

But mainly it's necessary to get the difference between what are your own problems and what is a problem in the relationship and how can you solve it together.

Ppl often tend to blame others for their own personal problems.

So if you're mostly looking for what you can improve by yourself I swear you'll get healthy relationships soon.

Improving yourself doesn't take away someones light. It´s actually the opposite you can really inspire ppl to do the same instead of just distracting.

I hope you liked this lil talk abt relationships in different ways. There´s so much to talk abt but this is a beginning :)

Also here I'm happy to hear from your opinion!!